Scoring That Date

Asking your dream lover for a date can be the hardest thing in the world at times. Are you the one who has spotted someone whom you fancy, but has practically no idea on how to ask for a date? Are you always hesitating to ask for a date, and in the end can only watch the person you loved slips into the hands of someone else?

It seems so simple at first, just ask right? But why do you feel so nervous and anxious?

Be yourself. Do not feel pressurized, and do not be worried about the outcome. Don't think of a date as a formal outing, but rather a casual way of knowing each other better. Think of a date not as getting, but giving. How will the outing benefit your date? Also, forget about all the bad encounters that you may have experienced in the past. Treat every experience as a learning opportunity. Stay focused only on the present.

Once you have decided to make your move, you have to find a suitable time, and this is based on your own instincts - when you feel that the person is receptive. Remember, strike when the iron is hot.

When asking for the date, you must make it casual and natural. You can try asking using an indirect approach - through an email or message (if you are the shy type). You can also choose to ask through the phone or through the face-to-face approach. It is recommended to use the phone or face-to-face approach, as you can have an immediate response on how the person feels. Who knows whether the message or email would be erased accidentally, and you are likely to lose your potential chance.

You can assume that your date wants to go, and pop up the question on where to go (If your date is busy, you will know soon enough). You can also try the testing approach. You can mention what you'd like to do, change the subject and then come back to it again. In this way, your date will get a chance to digest what you asked, and decide what to answer. Make the invitation casual and creative.

However, if your date says "No", be flexible and offer alternate timings. If all suggestions are declines, it is a hint to drop altogether. However, if you are rejected, do not take it personally. Consider it as a learning experience which will lead you to a better one.

About the Author

Jerry Heng is a Dating and Relationship Consultant who helps singles to be successful in the dating scene, overcome dating phobias, enhance love relationships, and find their true love. To learn more about his free Dating and Relationship advice, visit his blog http://www.hmengchoon.com You can also get his free report at http://www.datingexpertsecrets.com/free-report.pdf Further recommended resources: http://www.datingexpertsecrets.com

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